It happens every year – some years more than others, but it was a staple of mine for probably the last 15 years. “This year…this one right here, is the year that I start working out!”
I’d proudly proclaim it every year and by the end of January, I was right back to doing what I did best. Sitting on the couch watching TV.
What does this have to do with your New Year’s resolution? We are a month in. Where are you with your resolution? If you were like me in January 2011, you probably signed up at a gym. I even had a personal trainer take an assessment of my health. I even told him on day 1 that I was committed to making a change. I told him to give me a call and we’ll set something up.
I never heard from the guy.
I quit the gym in less than two weeks. I didn’t feel connected in any way to the gym I was going to. Nobody talked. It was especially hard as a big guy to walk in, get on the treadmill and have everyone look at you, knowing, or at least thinking in their mind, that you’re just another person doing the resolution phase and you’ll be gone within a few weeks.
It’s too bad that it has to be that way, but it exists in way too many gyms across the country.
Recently, I talked with Jan Burley, the trainer who guided me on my weight loss journey, about what people should really focus on so that they don’t become another statistic. I asked her what were 3-5 things people could do to help make sure that resolution keeps going?
She said, “To keep your resolution goals, don’t have more than two. Tell ten people what your main goal is. Then, write down your goal, along with a list of people, places, and tasks that can help you achieve this goal. You can use this to refer back to when you need to be reminded. Then, every morning tell yourself 5 affirmations of why you can attain your goal.”
Everything that she said is true. If I had more than two goals during the last year and a half, I’m not sure I would have succeeded. It allowed me to focus.
Give yourself affirmations. It sounds goofy, but it works. Simply telling myself I was “going to do this”, was enough to push me out the door to the club or on the road to run.
Do you remember Richard Simmons from the 80′s? I totally agree with his recent comments in the Huffington Post when he was asked the same question. He said, “In 2013…
Beam and be on your own team.
In this coming year I will continue to take good care of me for all the world to see.
I will be able to cope because I have hope.
I will always remind myself that overeating is defeating.
I will tell myself to not rust but to lust for health.
And I will remember to tone what I own
And sweat ’til I’m wet.
And everyone has to know-
You don’t get a choice on how you are going to die,
But you do get a choice on how you are going to live.”
I never understood the guy when I was younger, but he makes a lot of sense.
1. You have to be on your own team. If you are trying to do this for someone else, more than likely, you aren’t going to be successful. You have to do this for yourself You have to be your biggest cheerleader.
2. Take good care of me. For sure. This isn’t just about eating right and exercising.
3. Cope because I have hope. It isn’t easy. There are times when I struggle still today. I didn’t lose weight every week. Don’t get down on yourself, even when you have a bad week. Don’t quit.
4. Overeating is defeating. When I didn’t know how to deal with stress, I ate. If I didn’t feel good, I ate. If I had a “bad day”, I ate. Watch what you eat, maybe even journal what you eat for a few weeks.
5. Not to rust, but lust for health. I know there will be people who see this blog post and think to themselves, “Not again!” I’ve heard it; my own family hated me for talking about it all of the time. They probably still do. To be successful, I have goals; My health will be at the forefront of everything I do.
6. Tone what I own. It’s never going to be easy. You may be sore. Tell your body to deal with it. I still believe that the reason it hurt so bad, was my body’s way of saying, ” just so you know, we aren’t going through this again”
7. Sweat ’til I’m wet. Sweat is really just fat crying. #makeitcount
8. You don’t get a choice in how you die, but you do get a choice in how you live. When I was at my heaviest, there were so many things I wanted to do, but couldn’t. It sucked. I had to decide that this was not going to be “it” for me. It was time to live life the way I wanted to.
That was me in May of 2011. A super heavy guy that needed to do something about it. With a lot of hard work, I was able to become the guy on the right.
We live in a society that will gladly sit in front of the TV to be entertained. We’ll sit in front of gaming systems instead of going out and being active.
Every year, too many of us sit down and say, “Yep, this is the year by gosh. I’m doing it!” Then find ourselves right back on the couch in less time than it took us to sign up to do something in the first place.
I was pushed in to beginning the program by my wife Angie. Being pushed wasn’t a bad thing. She knew I had signed up to begin with in January 2011 she knew it bothered me, but this time we were determined to make it work.
It was amazing to meet so many people who were there for the same reason I was. To finally get healthy. To be fit enough so I could play with my kids in the yard and not get tired or run out of breath. What I really wanted was to take back control of my life and not let it slip away because of something else.
This was something that I could control.
Being big was a choice, but it was too easy to blame someone or something, else.
We all have choices in our life.
We have the ability to change.
Even though I’ve heard complaints that I talk too much about health and fitness, I’ve heard a lot of positive feedback too.
I’ve heard from people who have chronic health issues who have told me how much their pain has gone away, just from getting active and losing weight. I’ve heard from friends and family who have decided to get healthy, just because they saw the success I was having. I even got one of my staunchest critics to join the same program – and guess what? She has done fantastic and has lost close to 100lbs!
I don’t believe in excuses anymore. We all have choices to make about being healthy. We have choices on getting our kids to eat right and to get them active in sports or the outdoors or in just simple active playing.
I’m really excited to begin the next chapter on this journey. I’m excited to help others as I teach more classes at AFC. I’m excited to be a voice that someone can talk to when they are just starting their journey. It’s going to be a lot of fun.
If you’re new to this blog, you probably haven’t seen these videos, so I’ll put them up again. Last summer, I was interviewed for a few promotional videos for the club where I talk more in depth about my journey. I had a lot of fun being on the other side of the camera for once.
You’ve got this. You can do this. I believe in you, why shouldn’t you?