Something to keep in mind as we move in to the new year.
For regular readers of this blog, you know that a few weeks ago, I took my grandma on a trip to the north shore of Minnesota with my mom and sister.
I wrote about it as a way to remember the fun times we had when I was younger and a tribute to my grandparents for being so awesome.
When we stopped by last night for a quick visit, she handed me two cards, one for me and one for my sister.
Our trip to Duluth Sept.
Just a few lines to let you know how much I enjoyed our trip to Duluth.
I’m surprised how it has changed. But why not. We’re not the same as we were then either.
I’ll always remember how much fun we had. It’s been a long time ago.
Thank you for letting me remember the good times we had. They were so much fun.
Time & Tide wait for no man. So let me tell you they are some of my best memories (Thank you).
Thank you so much and God Bless.
I knew that she appreciated our trip, but didn’t know that it impacted her in the same way that it had impacted us.
The past year has been such a great experience for me personally. I’m glad that this memory for her, and for us happened in this year. It’s made for one spectacular year.
I’m already looking forward to Baking Day with Grandma as near the holidays.
Stay awesome everyone,
It only took all summer.
There were arguments.
There was pleading.
There was even a little bit of bribing.
But he finally did it. Today, after a long summer of long bike rides throughout town, he finally got the courage to take the training wheels off and go on two wheels. I barely had to push. I just got him started and away he went. Laughing and giggling all the way down the street.
I knew he could do it too. On some of those long rides we took this summer, he would blaze down the path, not even using the training wheels. When I told him I’d take them off, he was completely against it!
I suppose the crash he got in to in early June didn’t help. There’s a large hill near our house with a long bike path down it. As he was descending the hill for the very first time, he turned around to see where I was.
When I kid turns around, usually the handlebars go in the same direction of the head. In his case, it ended up in a big crash, lots of blood and a walk back home. As I watched the crash happen, I could only think how grateful I was that I made him wear his bike helmet. Bouncing off of pavement is no fun. I was just happy he got back on the bike and rode this summer.
But here we have it. Proof that the impossible – in his mind anyway – can happen.
A story about a trip, and in a way, a letter to my grandma.
Have you ever wished you could do something again? Maybe something you hadn’t done in a long time? As we move through life, there are inevitably things we will look back on and wish we could do just one more time.
A few weeks ago, I attended my nephew’s birthday party. He was turning two and a good portion of the family was there and any time you get the family together, there is going to be a great deal of talking. At some point during the party, I thought I would show my grandma some of the photographs we took on our day trip to Duluth.
The beginning of my love for the North Shore
When I was younger – much younger – my grandparents would take me on summer vacations. In my immediate family, we didn’t take too many trips, but I always looked forward to a summer trip with my grandparents.
We had lots of fun on our little trips. Over the years, we would traveled to places like Wyoming, South Dakota and Canada, however, our most frequented destination was the North Shore of Minnesota.
As many Minnesotans can attest, it’s absolutely beautiful along the north shore of Minnesota. I’m positive that I’m not the only one who loved going up there as a kid. From the big boats, to the trains to just simply hiking along the lake and collecting stones, you can keep kids busy for hours up there. I look back and have to think that the main reason we went there so much was that they could keep me busy the whole time.
We camped when we went up there.
Seriously though, camping along the north shore was fantastic. Our campsite always seemed to be near the entrance of the campground – close enough to hear the waves crashing along the lake shore at night. Close enough to cross the road and climb down the rocks to play in the lake. Close enough to Duluth to make a quick trip there in case a ship was coming in that I wanted to see.
In the photo above, that’s my grandpa carving up a piece of wood he found. He was probably making me a boat that I could play with in the lake.
I loved that camper. I loved going to Duluth with my grandparents. I’m still looking for a camper to use with my family so I can go on trips with them in much the same way.
There are many stories from our trips up there – ones that will be remembered for a long time. Like the time my grandpa drove down the wrong way of one-way streets, just so we could make it to the bridge in time to see a certain ship come in. Stories of where we stayed, campfires, Gooseberry Falls, and Split Rock Lighthouse. There’s even a story floating around that they took me to Canada, only to reach the border and say, “Ok, I’ve seen Canada, let’s go home.”
The stories are what makes up fond memories of our childhood.
Back at the party…
I had a thought pop in my head as I was sitting there talking with my grandma outside on my sister’s patio. I’d run home and grab my iPad that had all of the photos from our recent day trip to Duluth with Big Dude, Little Guy.
While I sat there and showed her the photos from our trip, she said something that stuck with me. ”Oh, I wish I could just rub my hands over those smooth rocks one more time.”
Now, when we used to go up to Duluth, that was something that my grandma would do. While I was worried about seeing ships come in and playing along the lake shore, she would look for the smoothest rocks she could find.
So I had a thought – we needed to find a way to get my grandma back to Duluth as soon as possible. My grandma is 97 years old and it had been a really long time since she had been there.
At work, we have a program called “Dreams Can Come True”. It’s basically a program that tries to make our residents “dreams” come true. Maybe it was a ride in an airplane or motorcycle or maybe it was in a limo. Maybe it was something big like wishing for world peace. Whatever the dream was, we tried to make it come true. Sometimes with great success, sometimes we had to modify. Either way, these people had things they still wanted to do in life, but they hadn’t really told anyone, not even their families.
If I was advocating for our Dreams program, I needed to advocate for my grandma’s desire to just “feel how smooth those rocks are again.”
When I brought it up with my sister and mom, they agreed, we had to get her there before it got too cold to go.
So this past Tuesday, we were up early and ready to go.
When my mom picked my Grandma up, she didn’t tell her where we were going that day – only that we were going on a day trip.
In fact, we didn’t tell her until we were almost half way there. She was surprised and kept worrying about us taking a day off for her.
We arrived in Duluth about 1 pm and figured it only made sense to eat lunch at Grandma’s in Canal Park.
My grandma and I eating lunch
After lunch we walked around a bit by the lighthouse on the pier.
Me, my grandma and my sister
Walking along the lift bridge; my sister, grandma and mom
Then we loaded back up in the car and headed for Split Rock Lighthouse.
We made a stop past the old campground – which is now a site for town homes.
As we drove up the north shore, she would comment on how much things have changed. The biggest change being the tunnels. If you’re from Minnesota, you may remember having to drive the road before the tunnels. I know there were a couple of times my grandma or grandpa would make comments about how tight they were hanging on as we went around the corners. It was a long drop down to the lake!
We continued along until we arrived at the Lighthouse. Last fall, Angie and I came across the road that leads to the campgrounds along the lake shore. It’s an easy access from the parking lots below to get down to the lake shore. I figured this would be the best way to get my grandma down there.
As we walked down the path and rounded the corner, you could hear the excitement in all of us.
There was the lake – huge rocks, small rocks, water crashing against the shore. It was all there. If there was one drawback, it was the lack of sun. In Duluth, it was there, but by the time we reached the lighthouse, it was basically gone.
So we set up a chair on the rocks where my grandma could sit and look out on the water. While she sat, we went around and picked up the smoothest rocks we could find.
As we would bring her the rocks, she would take care to examine each one. First how it looked, then how smooth it was.
It was a cool moment for each of us.
For some reason, it all lined up.
She made the comment in early September and just a few short weeks later, she was sitting along the lake shore doing exactly what she had dreamed of doing.
We stayed for about an hour or so before we decided it was too cold to stay.
As we walked back to the car, my grandma said “I never thought that after we brought you up here, that you would be the one taking ME to Duluth!”
I hadn’t really thought of it that way. My only thought when she mentioned it was making the trip happen.
But think about that from your standpoint. What are you doing with your kids or maybe your grand kids that they will be taking you to see or do when you get older? If we’d all think about it from that stand point, would our kids know what’s important in our lives? Would they know our favorite places in the world and try to help us get back there?
Before leaving Duluth, we stopped by one of the stores in Canal Park for a caramel apple to split between the four of us and to Caribou Coffee for a hot apple cider. It was a great way to end the day and warm up again!
We talked quite a bit on the way home. A lot of it was about the day and how much fun we had while there. One thing kept coming up – how much change she has seen since she last visited Duluth.
Sure there’s been a lot of change, there always is. But one thing that hasn’t changed is my love for the North Shore and everything about it. I’ll always remember the trips that my grandma and grandpa took me on up there.
In the end, it couldn’t have worked out any better. We all had a great time and we were able to make her dream come true.
Thanks for being awesome grandma!
I want to say that when I was the same age as our boys, I was really excited to go back to school.
At least that’s what I’m telling myself. I remember bits and pieces about going to school at the Big Dude’s age. I still remember playing on the playground at Hartley Elementary in Waseca. I remember the teachers and the smell of the hallways of the older schools. I also remember doing things in phy ed that wouldn’t even come close to being allowed in today’s world. (anyone remember climbing the rope to the ceiling of the gym?)
I remember so many of my classmates from back then too. I think that’s what the boys will remember most about going to school. Sure they are going to grow as boys and learn a lot this year, but what I remember most about grade school and preschool was the meeting a bunch of new friends.
As I got older, I didn’t really want summer to end – in a way, I still don’t. But this year, more than last, I am looking forward to the boys being back in school.
There is a lot of structure in the lives of a preschooler and 1st grader. The Big Dude learned that last year during Kindergarten. He loved school so much, he continually asked about when it was time to go back throughout the summer.
The Little Guy likes preschool, but desperately wants to be old enough to go to the “big school”. We were lucky enough to find a preschool program that lets kids go for two years, instead of just the one. Now that he’s in his last year, he is more excited than ever to be moving on to Kindergarten next year. He wants to go so bad, that he followed the Big Dude on the bus to school this morning with Mom to take photos of him getting off the bus.
Both boys have seen enough of each other this summer, and I think it’s starting to annoy each of them. Don’t get me wrong, they love each other, but I think they are getting to an age where they want their own space a little bit.
To the boys:
Good luck in starting this bright new year. I know the both of you are going to learn so much this year. It will be exciting for your mom and I to watch just how much you will both grow this year. While in a way, we are sad to see you grow up, we are more excited to see the person you are becoming. Both of you are such awesome kids. We are proud of you guys.
Little Guy on his first day on Tuesday:
Big Dude on his first “official” day, Wednesday:
Stay awesome boys,
Mom and Dad
Last Sunday, while I built a new flower garden in the front yard, the boys played outside for much of the day. They played with the Hot Cycles, their bikes, set up road cones for a track, and played with their water guns.
They seemed to be having a good time, even taking a couple of shots at me with the water gun. Big Dude tells me at one point in time that he even filled up the water gun himself.
After a long day of being outside, we cleaned up the front yard and put everything away.
At some point early Monday morning, I kept thinking to myself, “Why is the sump pump running?”
Because it had rained here on Saturday, I thought maybe that was the culprit.
Then this morning, I felt as if the pump was almost running non stop. I was running late this morning, so I didn’t have time to check in to it as closely as I had wanted.
Just now, I went in to the backyard to put the chairs back in their place after Saturday’s storm and guess what I found?
When the Big Dude said he filled up his water gun with water all by himself, he used the hose on the outside of the house.
It was still running. From Sunday. So we are looking at the hose pretty much running for around 48 hours or so.
There was a nice river of water running straight back towards the house, and right down along the foundation.
This is going to be one SWEET water bill.
Stay awesome and keep calm. I know I’m trying to.
When I started this blog, I promised myself I would try to add everything that happened in our lives, the good, the bad, the funny and the not so much.
Take this next story however you want. At the time this was unfolding, both Angie and I were dying a little inside. Both from laughter and from being a little embarrassed.
So here goes.
While we were on the dinner cruise, our boys were learning all sorts of new words they really hadn’t heard before.
Like most kids, when learning new words, the words don’t really come out the way they were intended the first few times.
Little Guy kept trying to say buoy, but it kept coming out as “boobie”.
You can imagine how this goes down.
“Daddy! Look at that booby”.
Out loud, where everyone can hear, on the top deck of the ship.
It was usually followed by “looks” from 9 out of 10 women standing by. Most chuckled thankfully.
On the outside, we kept cool – on the inside, we couldn’t help but laugh a little.
I kept saying “You mean Buoy?” And he would follow with, “Yes, Booby.” This went back and forth throughout most of the trip.
I don’t know where he get’s it from.
Sometimes, on a whim, you just need to get in the car and go somewhere.
On Friday, we attempted to go to the “Great Get Together”, the Minnesota State Fair with the boys. Well, sometimes, the best plans, don’t quite go as planned. When we picked the boys up from daycare, the Little Guy was so tired, he was in no mood to make the trip. After remembering the semi-disaster last year was with a tired kid, we ended up just going with Big Dude and the two of us. Let’s just say, the Little Guy made other plans.
When we woke up on Saturday, we felt like we needed to do something fun as a family – the whole family.
When I was a kid, my grandparents would take me to Duluth every summer. I had so much fun there, that I’ve been back pretty much every summer. Angie and I have been going every Fall since we’ve been together.
Side note: There is something about being on the north shore that comforts me in a way that no other place can. I get inspiration from being there. I feel at home there. It may be a tourist destination of sorts, but there are places along the north shore where you can be all by yourself and just think. I feel like I need to pack a kayak and my hammock and just go paddling.
Back to the story (yay!)
Whenever we go on a trip as a family, we tend to run a little late. This trip was no different. We arrived much later in the day (4pm) than anticipated, so we were only able to squeeze in a few things.
When we first arrived, the first place we took the boys was the Timber Twister – Alpine coaster on Spirit Mountain. If you have never been down an alpine coaster, you need to try this at least once. We went down twice, once with each boy. I rode down the first time with the Little Guy, who screamed with delight the whole way down. Big Dude noticed the camera on the way down the first time with Angie, so he was more concerned with smiling for the camera when he rode down with me.
Our next stop was head to Canal Park. On our way to the shoreline, the boys spotted one of the many fountains located around Canal Park. I don’t know about you, but my boys simply can’t go past a fountain without playing in it first.
About a block after the photo from above was taken, Little Guy walked straight in to a fountain coming out of the sidewalk. He was soaked. After a little drama, and a change of shirts, we were off to the lake shore.
With a little hesitation, the Big Dude was first to dip his toes in to the cool water.
They tolerated the cold water as well as I did when I was there age – they didn’t care.
While they could have stayed here for a lot longer, we had to get moving. While we were paying for our parking Angie lined up a dinner cruise on the lake with the Vista Fleet.
I’m not sure about Angie, but this is one of my favorite things to do while in Duluth. I remember my first ride on the Vista Fleet when I was in grade school. It’s pretty cool to take our kids to do things we used to do as kids.
The boat cruise ended up being longer than I had anticipated, but that was ok. We arrived back in port at 9pm, about 20 minutes before my parking ticket expired. We made a quick stop past the chocolate shop to pick up a caramel marshmallow for the boys before we headed home.
(I didn’t take a photo of the marshmallow. I should have – it had sprinkles)
It was a full and fun day, but the boys were so tired, they fell asleep before I hit the top of the hill.
Next time, I need to make better plans and rent a hotel room, or bring camping gear. If I would have done either before we left, we could have spent the weekend there.
At least we can say that we made a pretty cool memory for the boys’ first trip to Duluth, even if it was shorter than we all had wanted.
I’m still kicking myself.
What I love more than anything is watching how our boys are growing up.
Each day they amaze me with how they continue to learn how to do new things and learn how to play in new ways.
Yesterday, I was working in my office at home, and looked up as the Little Guy entered the room. He wanted me to put a blanket on him so he could use it as a cape.
This is what he looked like after completing his “transformation”.
When I started this blog, I decided that I was going to write about the things that happen in life – good and bad.
Well, last weekend, Angie and the boys were away for the weekend. I had the whole place to myself. I relaxed a little bit (sore back, which I’ll go in to in a minute) and mostly hung out.
Early Saturday morning, I woke up and thought, “You really need a haircut.”
Now most people would just go and pay to have this done. I have very little hair to begin with, so I looked at it, studied it and thought to myself, “You can do this yourself!”
After the first swipe, I thought it may be too close.
No going back now, I took another swipe.
After looking at myself in the mirror, I decided to put a hat on, and leave it to the professionals.
I showed up to Great Clips in town and they asked what happened.
I just shook my head and said “operator error”.
After the laughter died down, I have less hair than I had before.
Live and learn, live and learn.
This weekend is my triathlon. It’s at about a 70% chance that I won’t be able to compete this weekend, and I’m super bummed about it.
About three weeks ago, I hurt my back at a wedding dance. Don’t know how, but apparently, I can’t dance. That much is apparent.
The pain comes on in the afternoon after sitting in my office chair all day. I figured it was time for a new chair.
The problem is that I couldn’t make the drive to the nearest town to get a new one, due to the soreness.
I went to St. Cloud earlier this week, and could barely move after arriving in town. The drive back home was intense, but I made it.
Yesterday, I was at a conference for most of the day and by evening, could barely move.
I was up at 4am this morning because the pain had intensified.
For the most part, an ice pack and Ibuprofen would knock it down to where I didn’t notice it. Last night, the medication didn’t even touch the pain.
So at 4am, I’m up, crawling down the stairs to get more Ibuprofen. I go all the way back up stairs and realize I had left my cold pack downstairs. Crawling back down the stairs I go when Angie wakes up and realizes I needed help.
After getting me back to bed, I tossed around for about an hour before I heard something “pop” in my hip. With that the pain started to go away and I was able to fall back asleep. I felt better this morning than I had in awhile, but now, after sitting in my office chair half the day and presenting during the other, my back is sore again.
I’ve been to the doctor, I’ve been to the chiropractor with no luck. I’m trying massage therapy tonight, so hopefully that helps a bit.
With that said, if the pain doesn’t go away considerable between now and Sunday, I’m going to have to withdraw from the triathlon due to injury. I’m really bummed about the possibility of losing out on this chance. If I have to withdraw, I’ll have to wait until next year to participate. In all honesty, that may also be what my back muscle needs – a few days off to heal up.
With that, I’m getting up off of this chair to go rest my back.
Have a great rest of the week!